First off- her informal, non-professional opinion: she wants to slap H as much as everyone else around here and is amazed I've stayed this long. As much as she tried to hide it, the look on her face was priceless as I described some of what's been going on. Based on what I've told her, professionally, she agrees that IC may be beneficial to H for his sexual, control and anger issues if he was open to it. She sees a pattern of emotional abuse in our relationship, and hearing the opinions on this board helped that sink in for me- I wasn't sure I totally believed her on that one. And unlike H, she believes that I don't meet the required guidelines for needing any medication.
I started IC to learn better how to stand up for myself in my M- still working on that one, obviously. H thinks I went to work on self-esteem and confidence issues in general, which is true- I'm just going in a different direction with it than what he expected. Last time I was there, we went over a game plan for talking to H about boundaries, but I wasn't as strong as I should have been in the actual conversation. I need to try again.
