I fully understand the WAS has been through their own process long before they drop the bomb. However, in my case my H, to this day (19 months later) still never misses a chance to say we cant be married anymore. I have never asked him to stay married so I am unsure of the reason he needs to say it each time.
Just a few weeks ago he e-mailed me and said this: W, may I come by and pick up a golf club from our storage shed? I still cant be married anymore.
As we were working out some asset division matters he said "ok, I agree to this portion of the settlement but I cant be married anymore". Um, yes, that is why we are working on a divorce settlement, I get it.
My all time favorite was on voting day when he told me he voted for Obama but he cant be married anymore.
Now mind you we have been in a court case since July of 2008. Since Aug. of 2008 we have maybe seen each other 6 times. So why him picking up a golf club needs to be followed with a "I cant be married anymore" statement again is puzzling. It gets old. I get it. And by now he should get it too.
I have no idea what he tells his family or friends nor do I really care. The one thing I dont get is when my attny and his attny had a "closed door meeting" my attny told me that his attny said my H defends me up and down. So, whatever. He cant be married anymore. All clear. And at this point I cant either. I just dont feel the need to remind him of it everytime I open my mouth.
After his bomb dropping and affair and all the other BS that happened its still sort of astounding to me that he thinks I would *want* to be married to him. Arrogance at its finest.
