Must've Been That Mojo Boogie

[AlexEN]

I am also not saying he doesn't have perfectly valid reasons for being passive agressive. It is many times a tactic that LBS's need to use. All I am saying is that him doing this is pissing her off and THAT IS WHY she is choosing to whine to her sister about him saying x when he clearly said not-x, as SP put it. I am only responding to the portion that I hi-lited in my other post.

No one is right, no one is wrong. It is all a game and LBS's are playing (usually) to hopefully win back the WAW (not that SP is still doing this but usually that is what LBS's are doing). WAS's are playing the game to exit as simply as possible with as much as they can get away with (ie: they want to just take all the assets, leave all the bullcrap, and blame it all on LBS).

Again - what I was responding to is SP's saying he doesn't understand why she would sabotage any future reconciliation with him and any future relationship he might be able to have with her sister (answer, because she does not intend to ever be with him again, so she doesn't care about the sabotage) and I was responding to "why" she would keep "lying" about him saying x when he said not-x (answer, because he has not given her any number yet and this is making her assume the worst).

Now, it could be that I have a point here and that maybe SP could just accept my point and not go further and try to make it that I am saying he is wrong or right. I am simply saying what it looks like from the outside.

DQ

I understand and I agree, she may well perceive it exactly as you say. Now, take it a step further and if one agrees that it is neither right nor wrong, how does it translate into next steps? To "play the game" the way she wants, given your beliefs about the WAS's exit strategy, wouldn't seem to have any benefit to SP unless it might bring her back to him IF he wanted that as a possible outcome.

BTW, it was these words that threw me before:

I'm not saying you don't have valid reasons, but still from the outside, it is a passive agressive manuver on your part.

... as my inference from that was that was how you thought an impartial third party would characterize it, rather than merely how Mrs. SP might be perceiving it.