Must've Been That Mojo Boogie

[AlexEN]

Hmmmm as once a WAS I felt the need to respond to your post.

I believe that WAS believe it all right. They just want you to go away and understand.

WAS don't get up one morning and think to themselves ' well this was fun, but now what ?'

WAS begin leaving the M eons before LBS are told. WAS leave the M because there is something not being fulfilled in the M.

LBS are hurt and devastated and desperate because the WAS have left them in shock. Any LBS on this board, see the D day coming ! Not many I bet.

WAS have worked through many many emotions before doing whatever it is they needed to do to get out. Affairs, ILYBIANILWU ,lies , abuse - you all know the drill.

A little empathy here might make WAS a little more human. Their actions and talk are similar because they all feel the same. Trapped, guilty, sad, alone, scared and angry.

That's a good post, Pollyanna. So very true.

Puppy

I rarely disagree with @Puppy, and I agreed with everything else you wrote, but @Polly, the highlighted language above just jumped off the screen at me...

Are you suggesting lies, affairs, abuse are ever needed to get out of a marriage that is not fulfilling?

I certainly agree that empathy is in order as is an understanding of the LBS's own role in the demise of the R, but, clearly, lies, deceit, infidelity and abuse make it harder on even the most empathic of LBS's to show such compassion.

Just as clearly, the WAS had other choices than lies, deceit, infidelity or abuse (e.g., ending the M without any of those assuming their reasonable efforts at getting their spouse to understand their unhappiness went unheard and their needs remained unmet). Hard to conclude that these were ever needed...

-AlexEN