hard for me not to imagine how directly linked or indirectly linked (but on some level linked)your precious d's illness is to the colossal screw ups that H continues to perpetuate in the life of his children as well as his wife.
It is clearly sad on a multitude of levels when I ponder just how ignorant his understanding of love is. And how that ignorance has and will continue to have deep, profound and impacting harsh emotional force on his kids who are in the prime of there formative years.
I am reminded of a book which I grew such an incredible fondness for a little while back. It taught me so very much me when I needed an ultra quick I.V of sorts in order to rapidly get up to speed on learning the proper care and loving of a young daughter to set her on the right and proper course for her entire life of emotions and relationships and all.
If you haven't heard of it and wanted to check it out. I am almost certain it is called ..Strong Fathers ... strong daughters (w/ probably a longer flowing title too) by Meg (and the last name alludes me by that should be plenty searchable as is.
So my buddy Dan, if you are reading then there you have it. It will enlighten you fully and completely as to the incredible harm that you are causing your kids. I am sure in a number of ways you are a very good parent but there are without a doubt very negative impressions that are being cast on these oh so incredibly impressionable children of God. Certain emotional traumas adhere to young ones for perhaps all of their lives. NOW is the time that you can choose to realize how awful a toll this is taking on them. They are innocent and have nowhere near the the capability to process any of this garbage that is happening and that they are encircled by. It is for the adults to act as such and in doing so a fair amount of the childrens innocence may be retained before it is too late.
I learned a ton from that book and "my child" was not even one of my own creation. SHe has since been displaced from my life but in the real brief time that she was in it I busted my butt to love her. When will you do it Dan. When are you gonna get it man. Now is when they need you. They need a Dad to show them the way and the way that they are being shown by you is going to leave them hurt. This just doesn't have to be.
I pray that you will set yourself on an entirely new course which will begin to remove the hurt while it is still in it's infancy.
Lord please bring comfort to all the members of this family as I sense how so very much it is needed. You are a God of peace and tranquility and of healing. As I know how these things are so dearly needed in all families so that they may know and have it enforced that you are forever present to act as the adhesive to repair and renew and refresh. Give them an awareness of what paths they need to be on to bring Jesus' love in all it's fullnes back into their family life. Once they know that love, they will need nothing more. Upon it's receipt and acceptance and furtherance by their actions they will rejoice in your name Lord.
I exalt your name Lord as I beseech you to begin the process of rebuilding love in their home. Come quickly Lord I pray.