They all go about this in such different ways. My H has distanced from S in comparison to how he was but he works way more now and feels that that is how he is being a responsible father. But they don't have the R they had before.
Yes the more rope you give them, the more they will do but you have no real choice in it unfortunately. The only thing you can really control right now (and only to a point if you are standing) is how you are treated. Here is a perfect example, if he doesn't tell you what he is doing, but expects you to tell him what you are doing all of the time, and you go along with it, then it will continue. If he doesn't want to share, and you don't share your plans with him, he MAY begin to tell you after some time because he will have experienced it himself. I don't know if that makes any sense but...
I gave my H a card for our anniversary. I debated with myself all day about it. In the end, he didn't say much other than Thankyou, but I reached out to him in a small way and that is what counts IMO.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
