WAS begin leaving the M eons before LBS are told....WAS have worked through many many emotions before doing whatever it is they needed to do to get out...A little empathy here might make WAS a little more human. Their actions and talk are similar because they all feel the same. Trapped, guilty, sad, alone, scared and angry.
I don't think, in a moment of honesty, that anyone is going to disagree with this evaluation, @polly. In fact, we (all of us, not just you and me) had this discussion on one of my earlier threads. Clearly the Walkaway has been brought "to that point" over time -- except, perhaps, in cases of sudden Others or temporary insanity.
What I find so hugely bothersome -- and I think it gets to what @Citygirl was writing about -- is this:
Having reached that point and having made her decision and having announced it to literally every single person we knew as a couple and to many, many people I barely knew, and having declared her contentment, happiness, satisfaction with -- and commitment to -- that decision, why is it necessary for her to continue to manufacture stories about me that do nothing but put me in a bad light?
Why, for example, did she have to tell her sister that I said X when in fact I said, plainly and clearly, "not-X"?
How does she not see that if, by some fortunate chain of events, we were to start piecing it back together, the fact that so many people in her life -- and remember, this is a woman who never lets people out of her orbit -- believe really negative things about me, that this would be a real complication?
How, for example, would I ever be able to have a cordial relationship with her sister -- her sister, for the gods' sakes! -- who now believes really horrible things about me. And why wouldn't she believe them? What reason would WAW have to lie to her own sister -- who would presumably support her no matter what?
That's what Citygirl and I and some others were talking about -- the post-Bomb WASspeak.
