It was rough, hearing she hates me and I am fighting her for selfish reasons. She asks me why I want to stay in the M when clearly she is so angry and resentful. I am just trying to respond in word and action with love while protecting my rights and interests.
You are doing exactly what you should be doing. It's called tough love. I have seen people on these boards talk about a spouse who is in MLC and how the LBS should treat the MLC spouse as a teenager when it comes to understanding the MLC's actions and words. I think we with the WAS can apply this as well.
Your W is angry b/c she is now realizing that her vision of the future isn't reality. Reality is bills, two households, shared children, and having to confront those things ALONE.
Just view your W right now as a teenager when it comes to her anger. She will lash out at you b/c she views YOU as the cause of all her problems. And she will be angry b/c dammit, she wants her new life and she wants it NOW. Only problem is that little issue of fantasy v. reality.
Of course she thinks you are fighting her unfairly. B/c you aren't just rolling over and letting her have her way. Think teenager again. This will pass.
Keep on keepin it real. No, you keeps it realer than she does.
