First Piecing Thread

[Hope4us]

Thanks guys. I agree with your opinions.

At this point, it seems like W understands that this kind of crap gets out and I know she's smart enough to understand that there's at least some people at her work location that know what she was up to. Especially since W has made some comments to me that the manager of her department had talked to her about how much time she was spending with the "contractors" (read POSOM). Just in the last month or so, W has made statements which if you read between the lines, tells me she recognizes word got out.

So given that, it seems like me telling her that would only set us back, and that's definitely not the way I (we) want to go.

I've been thinking a lot lately about the sitch (there's a surprise huh?) and ya know, her holding back and not being willing to face this stuff head on is pretty much par for the course.

I know I've mentioned this before, but when W finally admitted to me that she had an STD (that she picked up in a relationship prior to us), it was YEARS after she realized it. She didn't say anything to me because she was afraid of what I would do, i.e., leave her. So it seems like with everything that's been going on the last 6 months, that this is no different.

She's saying all the right things. Through her actions, she's showing me she wants to stay and loves me, but for some deep seated reason, she can't/won't deal with it. I know there'll be a time she'll either finally open up with me about it or I'll blow a gasket and then she'll get scared and open up.

I hope it won't come to the gasket blowing and she'll open up on her own, but I fear she won't deal with it until I blow.

Anyway, Weekend was good. Had a great time Friday night at "our" bar/grill. Rest of the weekend was spend working in the yard, cleaning the house, etc.

It's been two weeks since W's office moved from the building where her and OM met/worked together and I'm not sure, but it seems like this move has been a good thing. W started her monthly fun yesterday and I didn't notice ANY PMS type symptoms the week prior. Maybe her anger during this time in prior months was related to the sitch. Or maybe this is a month where the PMS wasn't as bad. Either way, I'm just enjoying the calm and enjoying the good times we're having.

Wow, what a day. I wrote that above yesterday morning and then had a work emergency so I'm finishing up this morning.

That emergency kind of gave me an opportunity to throw in a comment to W that I hope she thinks about. One of the guys who works for me really F'd up yesterday. So bad, he thought he was going to be fired.

So I was talking to him on the phone after we'd sent him home and he was apologizing, etc and said he'd never make that mistake again and I told him "everyone makes mistakes, the real measure of a person is not the mistakes they make, but how they deal with and learn from those mistakes and how they handle themselves going forward".

So last night (when I finally got home) W was asking me about the mess, etc and I told her how upset this guy was and she asked me what I said to him. I told her the exact quote above and she just kind of looked at me and mumbled something that I didn't hear. We had a good rest of the night. Nothing great, but good.

Ok, gotta run. Still have a lot to take care of from yesterday.

I'll talk to ya soon.