I have one teensy thing to chime in with here because I'm a newbie who hasn't even read the books yet...
Whatever anti-D she's on, it's not working. A switch in dosage or to a different product might be beneficial. Anti-D's tend to take at least a month to get in-system, so the wait-and-see of it can be difficult.
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
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