So if I take a stand for something and set my boundaries she detests me and if I don't, she doesn't respect me.
K4D- every read up on my nightmare? Trust me you are right that you can't win with her.
Boundaries will piss her off. You being healthy will piss her off and mess with her version of who you are!!! That is what you want. So, do it. Not out of spite, out of you saying "this is me at my best, take it or leave it"...YKWIM?
You want your kids going to mass, you are saying that is an important part of who you are. That's it. If she can't learn to respect it...what are you gonna do, fake who you are?
