It's 6:37 here on a slightly chilly day in Cape Town. I _think_ I'm over my "wobbler". Thank G it's only once in a while.
Dia - thanks for your post. Remember that everyone has a gem of support and insight hidden inside them. Don't keep them in - share. Thanks for sharing yours with me.
You said [e]exactly[/i] the right thing. I had decided to keep quiet. I had decided to support her. If it's the only thing she will let me do for her. I'l do it. With a smile on my face and a song in my heart. And she'll see it and she'll know why I'm doing it - for her and us. She was in a really bad way financially - the requests for cash have stopped now. We are supposed to meet to discuss maintenance before 28th (pay day). Let's see if she contacts me to do this.
Bravehardt: Found the switch! Do all guys have this built-in?
Serenity: Morning honey.
You are right - everything that happens has a purpose. I now see I actually brought that on myself for texting her in the first place. BTW - I don't think she has moved. She just said she was in Durbanville - not that she was living there. A little later I got e-mail from my/our medical aid (she's still on it). The W bought something small from a pharmacy in Bothasig - right round the corner from where we live. I could have gone OFF at her for lying - but then realized that she didn't actually lie. Remember she is a wonderful Afrikaans woman - I'm a plonker of an Englishman. Sometimes things get screwed in the phrasing.
Serenity, I've been told by one very good freind, that she DOES know I love her. she DOES know I'm here for her, she DOES know she can come back, she DOES know I'm improving day-by-day. Rubbing her nose in it isn't going to help in any way.
What I do intend to do is steer clear of texting anything that could be considered pressurizing and instead, carry on with the odd one with positives.
The next one will be along the lines of -
"Morning honey. Another beautiful day sent to a beautiful woman. U r still a pain in the a$$ but what a wonderful one. Hugs."
Short sweet and to the point - much better than ranting and raving.
I understand exactly why you wanted to say all those things to your H that we all desire to do so very much.
