It is hard work...staying in the present. I am learning to do it now, too, though I am in very different circumstances than yours.
I do have a thread...it's called And Blossoming but you will not find my entire story there. I have been posting since last November. I am one of those people who saved herself but not her marriage. This was the right thing for me, I am a happier person today because of all of the work I have done on myself. Though my SBXH left me, I decided I no longer wanted to reconcile about 5 months after he left. We had no children. Long story short, I gave up a lot of myself to hang on to someone. I have worked long and hard...and am still working...to not be that woman. I like who I was before I did that and I like who I am again today.
I am glad to do whatever I can to offer you some support. That is the wonderful thing about this board. I was given - and still receive - incredible support from some truly wonderful people.
I mean what I said, you seem to be working really hard at this and doing a great job. I know it is hard, but like Carlos said, it gets easier in time. He is right...it does get easier. Some of it even becomes second nature.
Glad to read you have a dog and have taken up the guitar...those things help. As for staying in the present, here is something I do when I catch my mind wanting to look into the future - I try to stop myself mid-thought and gently remind myself that I am missing something right that very moment...does not always work, but it's a start.
