I cant tell yet if I am trying to control him by me not going or if I just don't want to go anymore. What purpose can this have anyways????????
You owe him nothing at this point and no, when someone divorces you, it is not controlling to go on with your life and leave them behind.
You should only go out with him if and when it is a positive experience for you.
I can really relate because trust me, with kids involved, there is so much pressure to "get along" and be friends. But, unless and until I can feel good about that interaction, I'm not doing it. And if it is yes one time and no the next, so be it.
So, do what works for you. And you don't have to make a decision that lasts for eternity.
