Someone please explain...

[Dia]

I happen to have a bit of experience in another 'lifestyle' area, and in that one it's a pretty high crime to push, manipulate, bully, pressure or otherwise attempt to force someone to do something in violation of that person's stated boundaries. If swingers have safewords, and if using one will get the heck through to him - use it.

I would also suggest removing your "couple" profile from the swinger site if you have the sort of access to do that. If he wan't to leave his own up, that's his choice - but he also has to live with the consequences.