Just got back from out of town with the kids. Had a great time. Ran into an issue with my wife though. While we were gone she kept calling my 13 yr. old daughter on her cell phone to get an update on her and her brother. She would call my daughter and ask her what we were doing and if her brother was eating and how he was dressed, etc. She never called me once to inquire about the kids. She never called me at all. I called her twice on the trip only because I had left a few objects at home and I wanted to ensure that I had actually left them behind.
On the way back home she called my daughter and asked her how far away were we from home. When my daughter asked me I told her to tell her mom to call me to find out. She never called. I probably should not have done this but when we got home I asked her why she kept calling our daughter to inquire about them. Why didn't she call me if she had any questions. She gave me a smart alecky answer of "I called her because I wanted to talk to her". I didn't want an argument so I just left it alone. She and my duaghter talked about the trip for about an hour. But my wife never said a word to me or asked any questions about the trip.
I'm starting to get a little worried about my 13 yr. old daughter. Even though I do most of the parenting, cooking, cleaning, shopping, trips, games, etc., my daughter is pretty close to her mom. Because of my work schedule I am home with the kids more than my wife. I do much more with them and for them. And since she is trying to establish her independence she rarely asks me for money, so besides going to the show she doesn't do a lot of recreation with them.
Lately though, my daughter doesn't talk to me much. She used to talk to me just about everything, but over the last month or so she has barely said 10 words to me. When I ask, she says that everything is fine. But I notice that she still talks to her mom like they are best friends. Could this just be a girl/mom thing or should I be concerned? I really can't talk to my wife about it so I don't really know the best way to handle this. Am I making to much out of it? I don't know. Anyone get any advice? I'm hoping that it is just a girl/mom thing.
Me-47 WAW-42 D-16 S-14 M-22 yrs T-19 yrs ILYBNILWY-3 years ago. Full Story and original posts: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...066#Post1781066
This is really getting hard at times, especially at night. At times I want to approach her and ask questions about her intentions and plans, "How long are you going to do this?", "Do you plan on not speaking to me forever?", etc. Really trying to hold out but it is getting difficult.
Me-47 WAW-42 D-16 S-14 M-22 yrs T-19 yrs ILYBNILWY-3 years ago. Full Story and original posts: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...066#Post1781066
Don't know if this was a mistake or not but I talked to my wife today about our daughter, 13 yrs. old. Over the last few weeks my daughter has been sullen, mopey, and down. She won't eat, won't talk to me and seems really depressed. She, I and my son went out of town over the weekend and she didn't want to do anything, she didn't even have fun at the amusement park we went to.
Anyway, I decided to talk to my wife about it. When I brought it up my wife didn't seem too concerned and said that she had already talked to her and found out that she was upset about Michael Jackson's death. She said that it bothered her a lot. Now I am even more confused and concerned. I asked my wife why she would be so upset over someone's death that she doesn't even know. She wasn't this upset over her grandparents and other relatives deaths. My wife says that it's not a big deal and that she used to be the same way when she was young. I tried to talk more about it but my wife kept blowing me off as if this was no big deal, so I left it alone.
Am I off base here? I have never seen my daughter act this way before and it worries me. I do believe that she is upset over her favorite entertainers death. She watches all of the reports and news items everyday about him. But come on, enough is enough. She never met the guy and shouldn't be this upset about it. But at the same time I can say that she did not start acting funny until after his death. So maybe that is the problem. Is this a girl thing? The only thing I can remotely relate to this is how I would feel like crying after my team lost in the Superbowl as a kid. But that would only last a couple days or so.
Trying to talk to my wife about anything is almost impossible. She showed little interest in talking to me about our daughter. She even seemed a little irritated. She hasn't said another word to me at all. If we were to divorce I would have a BIG problem with her having custody of the kids. I pray and hope that my wife regains her senses.
Me-47 WAW-42 D-16 S-14 M-22 yrs T-19 yrs ILYBNILWY-3 years ago. Full Story and original posts: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...066#Post1781066
I tried numerous times, but she just keeps saying that nothing is wrong. After talking to my wife I waited until I could get my daughter alone. I asked her if she was upset about Jackson's death and she reluctantly admited that it bothered her a little. I then tried to comfort her by talking about our Bible beliefs. She nodded ok and then went back upstairs. So maybe my wife is right. But should I be worried that she is this upset over this?
Me-47 WAW-42 D-16 S-14 M-22 yrs T-19 yrs ILYBNILWY-3 years ago. Full Story and original posts: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...066#Post1781066
Nothing interesting happened today. But wife did get peeved a little at me today. She asked me to take daughter to beauty salon. She told me that it should cost about $35-$40. When I went to pick up daughter after she was done I was charge $48.00. I called my wife at work and asked her about the price. She got upset with me and said that I should have told them that I was being overcharged. I tried to explain to her that I have no idea how much it should cost to go to a beauty salon, and I don't really know what all they did. She angrily said that she would call up there and straigten it out, which she did. They explained that the extra cost was because they cut her hair also. But they refunded me 20% of the cost anyway.
My wife has always complained that I don't speak up enough in situations like this. But I feel that I am at a disadvantage here. I know nothing about this type of thing. If it were buying tires or fixing the furnace, I would be all over it. But this is not my area of expertise.
I didn't say much too her and just went back to the salon for the refund. When she got home it was business as usual. She ignores me and only speaks if it is necessary. And when that happens it is always short and to the point. Never ever any small talk.
Me-47 WAW-42 D-16 S-14 M-22 yrs T-19 yrs ILYBNILWY-3 years ago. Full Story and original posts: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...066#Post1781066
Question to you all. How should I handle this? Since my wife has become a WAW, she obtained her own bank account and started managing her own money seperate from the family account. Once she did that I took her name off of the family account. At the same time though, she stopped regularly contributing to the household expenses. I basically pay for everything. At times she will pay the phone or electric bill or leave me some cash to do so.
Recently though, she hasn't paid any bills or volunteerd any cash. She uses her own money to pay her own personal bills and usually runs out of cash before her next payday. Yesterday she got paid and didn't leave me any money as usual. I got a little fed up and asked her if she was planning on helping me pay any bills this month. She just asked me what bills needed to be paid. I told her all of them. I am now waiting to see what she does next. I am getting tired of going through this with her.
How should I best handle this? I would rather she just give me cash since I know that she will not regularly pay any bills on time. She is terrible at managing money, thus I have paid all the bills for the last 10 years or so.
Me-47 WAW-42 D-16 S-14 M-22 yrs T-19 yrs ILYBNILWY-3 years ago. Full Story and original posts: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...066#Post1781066
Another question for you all. My wife is very rude at times. When she comes into the house she will not speak. She doesn't say goodbye when she leaves. She doesn't even say good morning when we wake up. She basically ignores me at all times. The only time she will talk to me is if she is asking a question or giving me info about something. Should I call her out on her rudness or should I just continue to ignore it? It really bothers me that she can be such a jerk.
Me-47 WAW-42 D-16 S-14 M-22 yrs T-19 yrs ILYBNILWY-3 years ago. Full Story and original posts: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...066#Post1781066
Did more decorating around the house today. Wife saw changes and hasn't said a word. I refuse to ask her opinion. She wants to show me that she doesn't care. I just want a nice house. Wow, this decorating stuff is a lot of work and not my area of expertise. I'll muddle throught it though. This helps me in my detaching.
Me-47 WAW-42 D-16 S-14 M-22 yrs T-19 yrs ILYBNILWY-3 years ago. Full Story and original posts: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...066#Post1781066
Hey wolverine I would ignore it. I suspect she is hoping you will react to her rudeness and possibly pull you into a fight and that only will give her another reason to pull away. It is of my personal opinion that coldness, iciness, or rudeness is a fear based action with the purpose to manipulate a negative response. I hope you are cheerfully decorating
