I really have to agree about the WAS speak. For 19 months my H tells me *everytime* we talk that he cant be married anymore. Yes, you have made it perfectly clear. You leaving me, filing for divorce, having an affair and letting me know you cant be married each time you open your mouth has painted a rather blatant picture for me.
Its almost like pursuit but opposite. The LBS will say how much they want to be married (or just think it) but the WAS will say how much they cant/dont want to be married. I once said to my H, "what makes YOU think I WANT to stay married to you after all this?" He had no answer.
I swear, sometimes I think the WAS says things for their own benefit and not so much for the LBS. As if they still need to totally convince themselves and the more they say it, the more they believe it.
The WAS - an odd bunch indeed. The LBS - also an odd bunch (but way cooler
