I do hope you let the anger go. I have reason to believe my W could be having an EA and I was pretty jealous yesterday. I woke up with a different perspective. Forgiveness in my heart for what my wife has done and what may come to be in my sitch. Letting go of the anger feels good. And like Sandi said, the OM means nothing to you. He is nothing a zero.. but your W means a lot. I wish you all the luck in the world fighting for your R.
It is quite frustrating in our house. She is moving out this week, had asked me to help, I said I would. Now that I have told her that he is not allowed at my home to help her move out, she is now saying she will just do it on her own. I have no problem helping her. I don't show alot of anger with her, but I do not hold back on telling her how I feel about OM.
It is quite frustrating in our house. She is moving out this week, had asked me to help, I said I would. Now that I have told her that he is not allowed at my home to help her move out, she is now saying she will just do it on her own. I have no problem helping her. I don't show alot of anger with her, but I do not hold back on telling her how I feel about OM.
You must be doing a good job staying calm. I just got the wrath of WAW via text. Breathe in............breathe out......... I know she still loves me even if WAW hates me. She'll thank me someday.
I can only hope her eyes open to the world before it is too late. Too many people involved that are going to be extremely hurt. Kids, me, her, family members, friends. The list can go on and on.
For what it's worth, my W admitted to having feelings for her OM when all this craziness started. I convinced her to go to MC after and thought everything was fine. For three months, I would ask her if she had ever told her OM that she had feelings for him and she told me no. Of course, after that, I found a note from her professing her love for him, etc. Pure high school stuff. The day I found out, I asked her once more to tell me the truth and she denied it. I then showed her the note I found and promptly kicked her out of the house that day.
Oh she was in a mood. Threatening that I was mean, scary, controlling, you name it. She said everything except admit to her A.
That was a year ago. Where are we now? Well, we're sleeping in the same bed, we get along better than we have in a long while and while there has been no intimacy, we have a pretty good friendship developing again.
So do I think we're going to get back together? Who knows? But what I did learn is that you stay detached adn do what you need to do to get your head on straight and let her come around. You can't "make" her love you. That's going to have to come on it's own. Make yourself strong once again and see what happens.
Good luck.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
I am just at a total loss at this point. I am sure that a lot of things I am doing are wrong. I am sure that some of the things I am doing are right. It is just frustrating that she has such double standards at this point, but can't see it. She is moving out, and that will help, but the kids are crushed. I had to tell them the truth, because all W gave them was a sugarcoated version of what is going on and how all of this was going to be an adventure for them. This is not a F*C%^nG adventure for the kids, it is their lifes too!
Well today it is al settling in with the kids. D 10 is breaking down and W is there to try to explain what is going on. She had better be honest and truthful with her because I'm not going to help lie about what is really happening!
Man, I have really gotten depressed today. I feel that W is to the point now that the kids are more of an inconvenience right now more than anything. Can't even be in the same house as me, even to see the kids. Got mad at D for being upset about W moving out. Did she really think the kids wouldn't be upset, really?
