When I decided that I would "stay" at home.....I was not in any mood to discuss it. He may think that deciding to just stay in the M and not get D is enough for now. I was the "talkative" type and yet I had nothing to say! I was all talked out. I had been trying to tell my H what I needed for YEARS.....but it did no good. I don't know that your H has tried to tell you or not....just saying that he may see "staying" as "working". At the time, I felt that was all I could do. I had to reach what I call the point to be willing "to be willing" and it took quite a while before that actually kicked in. I even tried to tell myself that I was trying to "work".....when all I was doing was staying here. But to me....that was work!
As for the birthday, I agree with Puppy. Kind of be prepared to have a simple BD dinner for just your family.....but don't get upset if he decides to leave and stay gone for the entire weekend. Don't be surprised if he doesn't come back to see child off to camp b/c the way he probably looks at that is that it's not that big of a deal. He can't think....he's fogged out!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
