Sandi2, Coach, Puppy and Gucci help!

[The Wifey]

It sounds like her schedule varies and yours might be more fixed? Even if both of yours varies, on the day you both get your schedules, talk on the phone directly, politely, and make plans for her to visit. Do this Before you set the rest of the week schedules.

Does that seem fair? Put aside your hurt, your angry, your not wanting to be walked on mask, and make the plans, then fill in the rest of the week.

Why? You do this because its the right thing to do. Granted, this sitch stinks, but you do it anyway. It is best for the kids to have both of you and whatever effort you can make to have that be the case the better for THEM. That's why.

If I had a dollar for all the WA's that stopped being so nasty when they realized they weren't going to be "fought" on everything I could go on vacation.

Not telling you to roll over and play dead. Be reasonable. Don't go out of your way to be unreasonable. Be polite. Don't let her do any walking on you by being the better person.

At this point I would let her calm down. When you do communicate, don't mention her nasty response. Suggest what I mentioned about the scheduling. Tell her you know the kids need time with her and you don't want to fill their schedule for the rest of the week until you know what fits for her.

When she gets her schedule proceed. If she doesn't follow up on the day she says she gets her schedule then fill the rest of the week. If she calls after, say, oh I'm sorry. We agreed you were going to call with your schedule and when you didn't I made other plans for the kids.

Always polite. Like she is a business associate.