Newbie with WAW 3

[pigskin]

I have a question I need a answer to. I know the general rules is not to snoop around, BUT, if one does find some info, I.e. Little love notes, is it best to not confront, or do you confront? Or do you callOM and threaten to tear his nuts off?

I confronted, which is counter to the advice you will hear. It wasn't a confrontation so much as a civil discussion over dinner. No yelling, name calling, arguing, or threats.

I needed to do it because I'm a nice guy. I accept that people make mistakes. I was giving the OM the chance to walk away, and, as the saying goes, "let bygones be bygones".

It allowed me to take a firmer stance regarding any actions following that meeting. Continued actions now cannot be excused as one-time lapses in judgment. They are conscious decisions to continue the offense after being "let off the hook" so to speak. And that would justify viewing the OM as not a poor guy who screwed up, but as a despicable piece of &^%$#.

Don't expect it to make any difference in their behavior. I didn't, although I hoped it might. It was just for me, giving someone the benefit of the doubt. Just how I am.