Still Wondering How To Handle Things!!

[Sanderika]

Hi kissak,

I just got home from doctors appointments....sorry I wasn't here earlier. I see it's already pushing evening.

My assumption is that H will call before he goes to TKD. He is aware of the recent events surrounding the class. I don't think he will take it for granted that you and son will be going. I hope I am not wrong.

If H should call and starts to get angry with you about stopping TKD, simply say "son does not want to go anymore, it's his choice and I feel good that we gave him the opportunity to try it". If he persues simply say "it's been decided H."

My take on the contact is H wants to keep his foot in the door.

I do not make contact with mine for any reason, and here...it is H who contacts. I have made it a habit to always be engaging with H. I yuck it up with him. I want him to leave the call or contact with a great feeling that speaking to me was very enjoyable. Good old fashioned ego stroking. It is one of the things that has brought us as close as we are, trust me when I say we have travelled miles back towards each other.

That is one of the reasons I have suggested that you engage him when he makes contact. Go above and beyond. Answer calls and texts as much as possible and with a genuine smile.

I wonder if H thinks nothing has really changed at home. I know we bat this idea back and forth. I am always looking for the reasons. Of course the OW are still either in their lives or they are still on the prowl for that greener grass.

I look at it this way, if I can produce some Pretty Da*n Good Looking, Irresistible Green Grass....I have a chance to bring him back home. If I don't try, I will get nothing.

I have to get son some supper, I will be back in a little bit.
Let us know how this evening goes....

(((((HUGS)))))

Sanderika