I agree with the boy....errr.....Trapt.

Boundries in this case are to establish respect for you...

Regardless of what else is happening around him, he needs to show you respect.

It's not okay for him to make plans that affect you and the children without telling you...

It's okay that they go with MIL, as long as he tells you..

Just be ready, and have in mind what happens if he chooses to ignore that boundry..

As far as the anger stage ? They all process it differently....Some lash out, some digest it internally...

He does have some issues though....

Keep this in mind...WHATEVER is happening, it is affecting him...

The more rope you let out, the more they take.

Stay strong for you and the kiddies Hope.....