I want my Monkey and Sheep Back

[The Wifey]

I know about government jobs because I worked in government for 11 years.

Yes about the books. These two books are not focused on relationships, they are focused on you. The Dr Phil book has assignments in them that if you do them honestly focuses you on your path.

And right now, in my opinion, you need to focus less on your problems and more on what it will take to get better!

As far as the cleaning, I recommend you start by getting boxes and then sorting one box at a time. This makes a messy room less intimidating and divides the task into finite bits to focus on one at a time.