Sandi2, Coach, Puppy and Gucci help!

[The Wifey]

Ok Bravehardt, I'll try.

I have called her but you don't answer your phone.

What you sent was imflamatory. The give me a break part of it got her dander up. It would mine.

unlike u when i'm working cant answer have my phone on me.

Fair enough explanation, however completely disregarding the fact that she didn't return D's call.

Maybe if D 6 daddywas giving her mommy some money she wouldnt be working 80 hours a week.

You hurt me so I'm going to hurt you back. I am throwing money in your face as a threat. I've talked to someone that says you should be paying me (an acquaintance, not a lawyer) and I feel entitled.

Also a mention of the 80 hour week is that she now sees it isn't a bed of roses to go out on her own.

Just like you, my schedule is not known. I under stand your schedule is a priority as U are living with our children.

Again, fairly lucid response.

this is the only u can hurt me is through our children. Someday u will see this and one day when they r grown they will see it to.

Again, expressing hurt and frustration. Another threat also, what she will tell the kids.


Now listen to me carefully.....

DO NOT RESPOND RIGHT NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Your emotions and hurt and frustration and anger are getting the best of you and you are doing it wrong.

No one gets to the point of wanting to walk away lightly. Even with a MLC, there is some basis of truth to what made her unhappy, made her feel trapped or whatever. IF you are still at the point that you can say you understand how she could feel that way yet still react without pausing, then you have to work more.

This is the woman you fell in love with, married and had children with. You want her to reconsider and make an effort. Do you think the message you just sent put you closer to or farther away from that?

She is not 100% right and she is not 100% wrong, and neither are you.