I have a son that is the same age and grade level as yours (and a wonderful daughter - 5 going on 25). They are great aren't they?
Only thing I would caution you on is not to be over the top with your praise to H. When you read the DB/DR books, you will see a big no no is taking action that your H could perceive as pursuing. You don't want to do this right now. Some praise, fine. Just don't get carried away with it.
Another book I would recommend is The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. It really helped me understand how my W was trying to show me love and how I was incorrectly showing her.
