Rays of hope - thaw approaching?

[Dia]

Hi, Mac,

I'm so new at all of this and haven't even read the books, so I don't think I'm in any place to offer advice.

Re: her job - while it's possible that she is being selfish about wanting her job income PLUS full maintenance for you, it's also very likely that she needs every cent at present just to get established and stable. You know her and your sitch far better than I do, but I might let the secret job thing ride for just a bit until such a point as she could be reasonably considered to be standing on her own two feet.

My H has been absolutely wonderful about the child support, and while I would dearly love to tell him he can stop paying it to ease the financial stress on him, doing so too quickly and getting myself into a financial emergency as a result doesn't do good things for any of us.