See, and I think emotional distance is GOOD at this stage. I don't think it's effective to go from detachment to pursuit, back to detachment, back to pursuit, etc.
Her question is an interesting one: "If you really think my contact with OM is over, then why aren't you acting nicer toward me?" It's like she's calling your bluff.
DO you think it's over???
Puppy
Actually her question was more "Why do you assume my contact is NOT over and are therefore remaining emotionally distant because you think its not over." Like she silently ended the contact (without telling me its over) because of her seeing positive changes, and now suddenly she see's me being distant again, making her think I'm not serious, and that she is being suckered back.
Do I think its over? I got the impression she is making positive steps in that direction, but I'm also wary and not being naive. I think she knows now that if I see any evidence of inappropriate contact, I'm going to be distant. If I get evidence its over, she'll see the positive changes again. The ball is in her court.
I was clear to her what to expect out of me. She knows I want confirmation from her that it has ended.
WAW Using God Me-43 W-40 M-14 S-11 S-9 D-7 EABomb 5/09 Separated 12/09
