how can a WAW be so friendly and pleasant and laugh with you and act like things are OK sometimes but be so sure when she tells close family and friends she is so happy to be making the decision to D and she is so glad they support her and it is years in the making?
You know the answer - b/c she's confused and really doesn't know what she wants or is so far blind to what her "new life" will be. You are just going to have to let this play out to see what happens.
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WAW brought up some things about how I "never" did this or "never" did that and it was hard and whatever.
Two things here. First, she is re-writing history. Almost all WAS' do this. Second, when a woman says "never" she really means "not usually." Some of my reading has helped me understand this. She is probably just venting some anger/frustration - which, IMHO, is good. She needs to get this out. And, I understand your desire to fight back and be defensive. But, I'm glad you didn't, b/c it would not have helped. Remember, VALIDATE her feelings - it doesn't matter right now whether she's right or wrong. All that matters, for now, is her perception.
We both just have to be strong right now - I know it gets frustrating and you probably feel like me right now - whay isn't this moving along?
