You are getting advice from well meaning that will ensure that you end up divorced. You aren't likely to save your relationship with this advice.
Have no idea what you are talking about. Are you even replying to the right thread sg? Glad you are such a seer...this place needs more of them. What did you see above that you are getting down on? Was it, "there are still improvements to make"? Was it, "keep working on yourself"? Was it, "try to not talk about the relationship as much"? Sg, if you are going to be the all-knowing moderator, you might want to provide specifics since what you wrote is pretty vague.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer