Divorce not busted 2

[pigskin]

My wife and I are in the same boat, interaction wise, as you orich. No fighting, in the same bed. An outside observer would notice nothing wrong.

I detached, she drew in wondering what was wrong. I told her why I detached. She seemed bothered that I would do that without telling her why. She also wondered why I haven't asked for status on her and the OM. She got the impression I was being distant, going back to the "same old me", throwing doubts in her mind that my positive changes were lasting. That is her biggest fear of "coming back".

So now I'm going to go back to what seemed to be working (being attentive, listening, small shows of affection that I initiate). She gave me the impression she's cooled it with the OM, but there's risk in me thinking that. I told her she can't have it both ways. So while I don't expect her to return affection just yet, she did respond positively to it, so I'm going to play it by ear at this point. I think she knows my behavior will be dictated by me seeing her behavior changing.

She wants me to take it slow, no smothering. So that's what I'm going to do. We'll see where it goes from there.