Divorce not busted 2

[Orich]

All right. I know that this process of DBing is a long process, and patience is important. But I am at a point now where I am just frustrated with the whole thing, and getting more and more p***ed off at W.
We are still in the same house and the same bed. We still act as though we are a family. We don't argue or fight. When we do talk, it is usually not the fun couple kinda conversations. Mostly it is about practical stuff. Once in a while, I will see that old look in her eyes, but it is fleeting. On very VERY few occasions, we will even laugh together like old times.
Mostly, we are in steady limbo land. I am trying to GAL and DB, but am running out of ideas.
I have posted before about her suddenly agreeing to Retrouvaille. She still hasn't called to do her phone interview.
I am putting a lot of hope into Retrouvaille, but I know that it isn't a miracle cure. I have to get her interest again, like when we were first dating. Our 10 year anniversary is in 3 weeks, and I don't know what to do about it.
Meanwhile, she tends to plan things in the future as though we will be together. She has said in the past that she could live in this limbo for a long time for the kids.
I go through times where I want to reach out and hold her, to times when I want to shake her and scream "what's wrong with you?!"
Please, if anyone has made it out of a similar situation with their M intact, let me know. I feel I need some encouragement here to go on on.
Don't misunderstand, I am not collapsing into a blob of jelly. I am doing things for me, and have changed for the better. I am happy with the person I have become.
I guess I am just kinda venting here. I read stories here where WAS's are on the fence or not 100% sure, or looking for the LBS to change something to come back. Mine seems either firmly done with M, or indifferent to the whole thing.
OK, enough of that for now. I am off this week to watch my 5 year old. I have to come up with some fun things to do with him.