In a case like this, you can only tell nosey people who have the nerve to ask about your S that it is based on very personal belief differences. I understand being concerned about what others think, but you can't stay in a M based on the fact it "appears" to be a perfect R to people. You are the one having to "live" it. God never intended for M people to include others into the intimacy. That is where you draw the line. The traditional marriage vows even say that.
Don't put up with lack of moral character & conduct. You are better than that and don't stoop to that type of lifestyle trying to hang onto your M. It doesn't work.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
