I've noticed that the more I learn to 'shut up' the more I hear what he has to say and the more that I realise I agree with what he says.

It's interesting now that the 'heat' is out of our relationship we are enjoying our conversations more. He's just been texting me. It started with topic about S and then moved to more general stuff. Think we're both feeling more relaxed but I am closing the conversations we have just so I don't look too anxious.