Hi Dia, I too was a WAW and I know how hard it is to come here where the majority of members are LBS. But, hopefully, you will get the encouragement that I received and it saved my M and actually kept me from leaving. I had the mentality of a WAW for a long time, but was so blessed by the help people gave me here. And, guess who helped the most? One was another WAW who had really had a bad experience and told me what I could look forward to if I continued down that road.....and the other was a LBW who had a WAH who was in MLC. Of course, many others were there but so many LBS came to me to help. I figured I would be the last person on earth they would even speak to....but I was wrong.
You will probably have some to ask your opinions b/c they seek the POV of the WAW, so don't hesitate to give that. We all help each other b/c if we didn't have problems, we wouldn't be here.
There are many people who saved their M's with the DB techniques. There is a forum here called Another Divorce Busted that would probably be encouraging. Most of the people who were successful have moved on after staying around to help for a while. So, don't do as some and try to gauge the "success" by how many are here on the board who's M are working. As you continue along, you will discover that this is not just about busting a D, but actually self-survival as a person.
We have all types of personalities here, as you would expect. Some are loving and soft spoken and try to cheer you up. Others get down to brass tacks and hit pretty strong. You may run into somebody who is really hurt and come across as being bitter toward all WAW's, but it isn't really directed toward "you". Everyone here is either in pain now.....or has suffered pain in the past. We are a community and you will be surprised at the new friends you will make. So, welcome.....and come to post as offten as you can. Go to other forums & read posts and reach out to them and you'll build your own support system up faster.
Take care, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
