Well, it's been a while so I thought I'd give an update. I returned from my TDY in New Mexico and the wife stayed at home for a week instead of moving back to her apartment. We got along well and it appeared that things were progressing as they should towards reconcilliation. But alas, she moved back to her apartment after one week. She kept calling everyday for a week after that and we went out to lunch a few times. We had long conversations--not arguements but discussions about our future. She told my daughter again that she was coming home. Fast forward to this past weekend. She is all the sudden very angry again. I ask her what's wrong? She starts bringing up stuff from when we first got married again and says she should have got an annulment? I said you're kidding, you're still holding on to that stuff? Why? She said she didn't know. I said, I'm never going to be good enough for you, am I? She said, probably not. That pissed me off pretty good. So, not a lot has changed. I thought it had but I guess the only difference is I haven't had the emotional breakdowns I had when this first started. My counselor told me that folks that hold on to anger like this and can't seem to let anything go from the past are more likely to get cancer as thier bodies are more stressed than someone who is able to forgive and let stuff go.
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
Ha, funny stuff. Everytime I back away hard the wife starts calling again sniffing around to see what's up. She called me yesterday at work on my cell. I knew it was her so I didn't answer. So she called my work number. I had to answer that one. She says, I figured I'd call since we haven't talked in 4 or 5 days. I said, didn't we just talk on Sunday? What's up? She said, nothing, just calling to see how you're doing. I said, I'm really busy, can I call you back? Sure. And I never did. So guess, who calls late last night. She says, how come you never call? It must have slipped my mind, I've been really busy. D and I were watching a movie. Oh, it's like you don't care about me. Ok, I said, if that's what you believe. How come you don't care about me, she asks? I said, wow, look, these conversations are getting old. She said, you and D don't even care about me. I said, ok, if that's what you want to believe but I'm not going to get into this again. She says, I want to come home. I said, you've said this all before yet you haven't said when and you haven't said you're willing to work on us. Matter of fact you haven't agreed to anything and only stated what you want. So, until you're willing to do so, I don't think we have a whole lot to talk about. She says, can we talk about it now? I said, no, it's kind of late and I'm going to bed as I have to get up early for work. Call me tomorrow. I'm not holding my breath anymore as she seems to be very hot and cold. I keep reading my Gucci advice and it seems like everytime I act as he suggests it works--funny. I haven't dated anyone as I've alluded too but I have a lot more female attention that I've had in the past it seems.
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
Sorry to hear that. Back to the hot and cold. After a good conversation with the wife one day we go back to no interaction, no phone calls, no nothing. Not a surprise though. It's almost expected at this point in that I have come to the conclusion that it is unrealistic of me to expect anything from my wife.
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
