Thanks Sanderika...I am going to a family reunion tomorrow and a baptism on Sunday after church..I have my days filled, but the days dont bother me tooo much, its the nights. No festivals going on right now so, I may see if some friends wanna do something at night....
thanks for your help. I hope you will be feeling better soon...get some rest this weekend.
You know, camping out might be fun. May try it soon.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Volunteering burns up a ton of time! Homeless shelters, safe homes for victims of abuse, animal shelters. Puts life in perspective too! Libraries, YMCA, charities, everyone needs good volunteers!
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
The only thing that kept my mind off xh at night was to watch mindless movies on DVD and exercise while doing it. Since you've lost so much weight maybe you could incorporate that into your weekend evenings to promote your new lifestyle and distract yourself at the same time.
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WEll thats a good idea, especially since im going to a cookout tomorrow...may need to exercise off some calories!!
Im thinking about renting a movie for me and the kids tomorrow night....not sure about tonight yet. Taking them to the movies gets sooo expensive on the weekend nights, so wont be doing that.
SO many great ideas, now just gotta figure something out!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Well, its Sunday afternoon and I can honestly say that I have had a great weekend!! It turned out better than I thought! Only thing is that I ate way too much! Gonna have to work it off this week! No problem!!
I have to say that Friday night did start off weird with my H. I talked to him briefly when he called me. He wanted to know if I had called him....uh,no he called me....anyway, he cut it very short to make a phone call and said he would call me back. He never did. I texted a little while later to ask him to drop something off that belong to my daughter at the house so we could have it the next day...he wanted to know when and why. I told him and got only a reply of "k" that is what he sends when there is somthing wrong. Anyway we were at the end of the street later and saw him go by...he clearly saw us, I tried to call to get him to leave my daughters stuff with us, instead of going all the way to our house....he was very very unfriendly with me on the phone...so much that I told him so and hung up! Later he texted me and wanted to know if I had removed him as a friend on FB....I told him yes, about a week ago. He asked why...I told him that I didnt care to see his updates every day. He said Ok and thank you for telling me...and then whatever, its your choice.
I felt like at the end of the night I was the one that was apologizing to him!! I dont get why he makes me feel that way.
Then last night and all day yesterday he was acting the same way, even today! He wanted to know why I werent talking so much and he was being short with me all day. He is just in an unsocialable mood.....ok, got that!
Dont know what happened after he called me on Friday, but his whole mood changed....I know he called around to see what a rescue call was about...have a feeling he called his exOW and she put him in that mood....she is usually the only one that can do that!
oh well, his sorry weekend made out for a good one for me!!!!
Had fun at a family reunion yesterday and went to a baptism for a couple in our church today! Had a great and busy weekend!!!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
I imagine it was a combination of things that created H mood.
The realization that you removed him from friend list on FB, he even felt the need to verify with you by asking to make sure.
Perhaps he had contact with XOW, who knows for sure.
Plus a whole array of other things....He is not happy at all. He has made a miserable existance for himself.
Your being more detached from him, IMO he is noticing this and not real happy about it so he takes out the frustration on you. Right now he is very curious why you have changed and he is spending a lot of energy trying to figure things out. It's like all of a sudden his idea of a perfect world isn't so perfect and he's scrambling. Why else would he constantly be trying to figure you out (where's kissak, what is she doing right now, why doesn't she talk to me, why remove me from her FB friends list). I think H is going through a strong period of insecurity and it is troubling to him because he feels he is losing control. Thus the mood.
I see how you filled your days, how did your evenings go?
Have a great week!!!!
Sanderika
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Hi Sanderika! My evenings went pretty good too! Didnt do alot, I did watch a movie with the kids one night.
I have to tell you of the events of last night though with my H.
I didnt hear from him alot yesterday. I went to church, he texted hi a couple of times through the day.
About 10 last night he sent me a text. It said "ok well I think Im gonna say good night and put an end to this f***ing boring A@@ day! Then another followed "I guess your busy so good night"
Ok, first off, he never talks to me like quite like that, I dont speak to him like that either. All I did was reply Good night after I recieved those 2 texts. Then he come back with "oh, now you answer". Then "nevermind" and then "night". I decided to text him back. Probabaly shouldnt have, but I was ill that he thought he could talk to me like that. I told him that I wonder it he talks that nice to all his friends, or just me? He texted back "i do". THen he said he had just had a boring day. I asked him why was it different than any other sunday, he then told me that it was because he didnt get out of bed until 7:30 that night! I told him that it was his fault. He agreed and then apologized for bothering me and talking ugly to me. I said that it was ok, and I hoped tomorrow would be a better day for him. Then said good night. He replyed "sure, night".
He has had quite a weekend. He keeps wondering why I dont talk as much to him anymore. He is bored to tears. I dont know why, there were things he could do if he wanted to.
He even called me at lunch today just to talk I assume, but I had a customer and had to cut it short.
He has therapy today. Maybe thats a good thing, who knows. Sometimes it is and sometimes it isnt. I just have to figure out how and when to tell him we are not going to tkd tonight. My son does NOT want to do it anymore. Im thinking about just sending him a text saying that son still doesnt want to go back. Any suggestions???
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
I just have to figure out how and when to tell him we are not going to tkd tonight. My son does NOT want to do it anymore. Im thinking about just sending him a text saying that son still doesnt want to go back. Any suggestions???
You don't need to say anything to him about it at all. The decision was made and you have already discussed this with him. If HE brings it up you can just remind him. No need to get into a big discussion with him over it. Just the facts and then let it be but only if he brings it up.
He contacts you all the time. It really doesn't mean anything other than he is contacting you. Don't read more into it than that. He knows what he needs to do if he wants to restore your marriage. I have yet to see him do anything that indicates that is his thinking at this point.
You counting down the days until your little vacay at the beach with the girls?
~ swl
Look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again. Wisely improve the present. It is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future, without fear. {Henry Wadsworth Longfellow}
The only reason I feel like I need to remind him we are not going to tkd is because he made a point of telling son that he was only taking a week off. That week is over and Im sure he is expecting us to go tonight. So, I feel like I should let him know that we are not going...I think...Its a good drive there and if he goes and we are not there, he will be ticked off with me...and I dont want that, no matter what.
I know he isnt ready to come home, I know he is only contacting me because Im probably the ONLY one who will put up with him most days. He doesnt wanna come home, if he did, he would. Im not trying to read anything into what he does....It's actually been good for me not to see him in a week! I feel like I wanna talk to him less now and I really dont care if I see him at all for a while. Its a nice break.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
