I read through a portion of your first thread, and then this one so while I haven't read every word, I do have a few insights to share - even tho I'm not entirely sure if I'm a WAW or not.
I don't think you're stuck. There was a time in our house where we were still in the same house but separate bedrooms. I was calling us separated. For about 2-4 months, things seemed to get better. He was more relaxed, easier to be around, funny again, not drinking, doing more housework, etc. Me, I was watching like a hawk, confused, wondering if all of this was real or just temporary like it had been before.
I was literally only a day or two from telling him I wanted to end the in-house separation and give 100% to reconciliation when I discovered the affair with my best friend. And then I just left. So hurt and devastated - and hugely friggin angry that I'd been suckered - that all I could do was tuck tail and run, bawling so hard on the drive I was worried I'd hit something.
So while I can't promise she's like me, status quo may only LOOK like status quo. Unless you've had a name changes here, you've been at this 2 months? May to July? You're not stuck and changes in her might be percolating below the surface. Give it more time and keep on keeping on.
Let me give you another tip - those books are a further sign that she's confused. If she was as dead sure as she says, she wouldn't be reading them. She'd be doing it. See, sometimes it can help to try on something new - meaning life as a divorced person - vicariously, in small steps, by reading about it. The whole while, you're trying to feel the thing out - Is that me? Is this how I feel? Could I do that? The answer could be yes - or no. Just don't push because pushing tips things toward leaving.
Hang in there!
Dia
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
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