In limbo- deciding to stay or go

[SDFoundGirl]

The question is, what do YOU want? No one on this planet would blame you for walking away, if that's what you had to do.

Are you willing to put that boundary into place and enforce it?

Are you willing to let H keep screwing anything that moves and stay married?

Are you willing to contract any disease he brings home? Because, as we tell the kiddos in sex ed, nothing is 100%.

Are you willing to die because of his lifestyle? Again, nothing is 100%. (This is a question I heard on Oprah with a therapist advising parents how to talk to their sexually active/thinking about becoming SA teens. It's a good one.)

What does Sharon want for herself? Because it's not wrong to live authentically, to draw a line where your boundaries are, to take care of your own emotional needs.

Love means respecting other peoples' boundaries, understanding that what's right for themselves might not be right for someone else, and that's okay.

This is your one life, and it is up to you to live it in a way that brings you authentic joy (as opposed to icky bandaid psuedo-joy like your H, using different women to fill himself up).

Get in touch with what you want, and go from there. It's not selfish, it's real.

SD