~ My story ~

[Distracted1978]

The basic truth is my H is the typical "I'm the man" man.
My parents had a TERRIBLE marriage & I've always said when I get married, it will be forever. I honestly believed that. I never married till my H, had children, but not marriage.

When I married my H I put everything out there. Did things I didn't want to do to please him even if it meant I would be unhappy or unfulfilled. I didn't care, I wanted him & my children to be happy....mainly him.

That's where the mistakes began....

The reason the Vegas trip meant so much was that it was us & only us. He was SO into ME for the 1st time! I'm very vocal so I'd been voicing my issues with our M for a long time only to realize my words were falling on deaf ears.

My H done a 180 when I said I wanted out. He came here for support. He came to me, but I turned him away. I was so angry. He hung on for a few months of "co-existing" & then moved out in March.

My 180 came later, in May. I never did anything from March to May as far as concerning myself with him. I was self-absorbed with my new found freedom of "him"...

There's been much turmoil since then which I listed in my original post.

I went & bought 2 of Michelle's books today. DB & DR, I also picked up men are from mars - women are from venus.

I'm going to really study myself for awhile. I won't approach my H again until I know without a doubt what I want.

Thanks : )