Trying to cope with H, IA/EA (was Newbie-1st post)

[Faith2010]

I think that is why 180's work well for a lot of people. The WAS needs a series of shocks.....and when the LBS does 180's, it keeps them (WAS) off balance and their focus off the OP and onto the LBS.

Well put Sandi. I think a series of shocks may be the trick or at the very least, a change.

I've been clear that my Ws EA is not acceptable, but I can't MAKE her stop it.

It's a fine line between being aloof to reinforce the intolerance of her behavior and risking her thinking "well this sucks, why would I want to reconcile", and treating her well so she see's what she'd be giving up while risking cake eating.

We're definitely in the realm of art rather than science.

Pigskin - Very true - we can't MAKE them stop. That's the hard part. It is a very fine line and trying to balance such is difficult but I like how you put it - in the realm of art rather than science.

H sent another text this evening: "r u ok? and will u please answer me?"

I'm not going to answer him. That is what I would normally do and what I want to do so in the spirit of an 180, I will not.