Trying to cope with H, IA/EA (was Newbie-1st post)

[pigskin]

I don't know if I'm wresting with that exactly. More like with the entire issue of him being here while still talking with OW, giving himself emotionally to her all the while feeding me all the BS about how confused he is, how he can't live like this etc... It feels like he's stringing me along. Granted, I have set boundaries, which I am proud of, and thus far they are being followed. Maybe I am on the right track. I just don't like being in a depressed funk like I feel right now.

Perhaps I need to say flat out "An emotional affair is not acceptable." But then what? I'm just confused (now I sound like H!)

I'm with you Ash. I've been clear that my Ws EA is not acceptable, but I can't MAKE her stop it.

It's a fine line between being aloof to reinforce the intolerance of her behavior and risking her thinking "well this sucks, why would I want to reconcile", and treating her well so she see's what she'd be giving up while risking cake eating.

We're definitely in the realm of art rather than science.