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Let me start (Sandi) by saying I'm not looking. But one cannot help but wonder orich.
grin You guys!

Glad you are doing better. Just wanted to tell you to let your W "talk" about her job problems. We don't expect our H to "fix" it, but we need them to "listen" really well and let us talk it out. The best thing in the world is to validate her concerns or anger about the "unfairness". She wants you to support her feelings. My H use to point out how I was spreading myself too thin and things like that, but it made me feel as if he was criticizing me. Then I would feel hurt at him. So, the main thing is to listen and let her get it off her chest. I think it's a good sign that she turns to you to talk about that.

My DIL use to go home and talk about how badly she was treated at her job place and my son would be ready to go wipe the place out....lol. Then my DIL would feel better after talking, but my S would still be upset. Of course, "Mom" had to have a talk with son about how women are and then he got better at just listening. cool (lol)






It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!