D78, sorry if it all seems so harsh but your sitch does have some twists that make it more unique than others. That and I've never been good at all the mushy gushy sweetie pie stuff but I do throw in some hugs now and then.
How are the kids taking all this? do they understand what is happening?
Reach inside of you, start with the basics of what you want and how you want your life to be. Would your life be better with or without your H? What about the kids? What makes their lives better?
What happened to end your first M?
I'm sorry you've been going thru this by yourself. I know how tough that is, I've not confided in my family or friends about my sitch with my H during all these years. It doesn't mean they're blind to everything but I haven't spilled the whole story.
(((D78)))
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
