Am I supposed to continue to pretend nothing is going on when I know he's involved with OW? How hypocritical is it for him to want to act/be friends when he's tearing me apart?
Not "hypocritical". I think the word you were looking for was "selfish."
I wouldn't talk/communicate with him right now since you are upset - I don't blame you.
I recall you laid down a boundary about no ML while he's still involved with OW. I take it he does not know you know about his txt's to OW where he used the pet name? Are you wrestling with whether you tell him or not you know?
