Yes, T I think that is a good tack. My husband did something very similar with me years ago, and it was very successful.
At one point, before my daughter applied to college, I planned to move to CO to establish residency, so my daughter would get in state tuition. I would move and take the kids with me, while my H stayed in LA. He didn't say no. He kept talking to me about it. One night he took me out to dinner with drinks in the bar first. He asked a lot of questions about what our lives would be like. Where would I live, how would I live, where would the kids go to school, etc. He got into little details about what I would do each day, making me visualize the life as we talked. It seemed like he was in agreement with me doing it. Then we went home and continued the conversation. I don't remember what the question was, but we were talking about my impending life alone with the 3 kids in CO. And suddenly, I couldn't breathe. I was having a panic attack. The first time I had ever had a panic attack. I think I started crying and he asked what was wrong. I finally realized that all my bravado wasn't going to be enough, at a gut level, I was afraid of being alone with the kids and trying to cope. That ended my talking about moving to CO. My daughter did go to school there a year later, and we paid out of state tuition.
