Cat, thanks again for the advice and reminders. I really don't tell him much of anything that is at all deeply personal anymore, even if he pressures (though it is nice to have him ask and act like he cares because it has been months since he seemed to care much at all). I really don't trust him at this point - when I feel like it is "safe" I will start to open up. Something you said really struck me - about how they don't want anyone to see too far into them right now (and he has, like you then said, ALWAYS been that way to some extent, except he felt comfortable telling me). The stuff he tells me when he does open up is pretty deep and it doesn't happen too much. It isn't pretty stuff for sure.
I have used the past few months to make positive changes to me. At least that is one good thing that has come from all of this!:) I know I am coming through it a better, stronger, more centered person whose priorities are finally straight. I am hoping his journey leaves him the same way but that is his journey not mine.
I think I saw in another post of yours that you think your H is pretty well done with the replay, or at least that is what it seems? I know you are a spiritual person. Can I ask, was/is your H as well? I see that as a major factor in my H's situation.
