I'm with A&K, Kett and Sara on this. You made plans with S9. He's expecting it. Invite her to join you and wing it from there. Then you can decide how friend-y feels right. Trust your Mojo.
I'll jump on this wagon as well. Invite her to join you all, if she will.
If she has never been big in the kitchen, what would happen if you were prepared for it, and plopped her right in the middle of the action - a spot between the kids, a define task, a fun apron, etc.
Your first post seemed to say you were hesitant of the contact because of the way she might be using it to prepare you for the MC which is just a way to prepare you for seeing the financial arguments her way. In this case, I still say to go forward with it, just be prepared. The contact and the "preparation" cuts both ways.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
