Well, I can tell you that there are probably hidden blessings in all of our sitches. When I came on here, a few people were saying how lucky I was that H was in contact so much. Well, guess what? It is because he is a selfish pr*ck who wants the connection, my attention, my body, when he wants it and I can't even express what a mindf*ck that is.
When I look through success stories I see so many that don't involve kids. Unfortunately, the draw of staying together for the kids rarely sustains and the damage done to them in separation creates a whole other hurdle to forgiving and reconnecting. You have these little people who want to be able to assess what is happening in their lives. You can't just go for it, you know?
You want to know that he cares and that he thinks about you. How about that I, Alive and Kicking promise you he does?
If it makes you feel better, know that he does care but he is on his own path right now.
Yes, this will take time. But you have a lot more going for you than you realize.
