Trying to cope with H, IA/EA (was Newbie-1st post)

[hoosiermama]

Thanks Hoosier - you broke it down into workable pieces for me. One thing each day is much easier than trying to figure out: should I take dance lessons then worrying about how to find where they are, how much they cost etc... Baby steps, that I can manage.

I didn't mention in my earlier post but it keeps replaying in my mind. In a text to OW, H called her a nickname he has used for me since our S was born. I've never heard him call anyone else that name, not even his own mother. Cut to the core.

1) yes. it's all about baby steps right now. if it feels too huge, do something smaller. whatever takes you out of your head. I forgot exercise; that one doesn't do much for me (!) but it's excellent for getting out of your head and releasing endorphins--something you need badly right now. so walk, run, dance, bike, swim--whatever you do.

2) ouch. yes, there are moments when you discover very small things that are just excruciating. just keep moving.